Why do I love a guy who hurts me so muhc?
Throughout our relationship he has broken up with me 4 times. The first tine because he read my messages and saw that a guy (who was just a friend) was texting me. But he didn't tell me thats why , he just broke all contact with me and gave no explanation. The Second time was because I was jelous that a really pretty girl that he met in a club one night was texting him all the time ( he said it was just because they come from the same city in brazil) But any way he got mad that i was jelous and broke up with me. He came back again , and I like an Idiot took him back. Then one night when i was dunk I told him I was bisexual. The next day he said that was too crazy for him and he broke up with me. At this stage I was compeletely heartbroken and this guy, who is an aquaintence of my boyfriend kept asking me out and stuff. I didn't want to sit around and wait for mt boyfriend to come back to me again so I went out with him. When my ex this out he went crazy and smashed my laptop. He said I was a slut and bever wanted to see me again. Then after a long time he came back telling me how much he loved me and needed me, and that he would change his plans to go back to brazil to stay with me in ireland. And of course, me being so weak ran straight back to him. everything was going great for a while, until one night we were out and kinda drnk, he asked me if i slept with that guy, I said yeah and he went crazy calling me a slut and said he never wanted to see me again.He deleted me on facebook and wouldnt answer any of my calls. We eventualy spoke and he said he could never forget what I did to him and that eventhough he loves me we can never be together. He has made me feel so guilty for what I did, and he has made me lose all confidence in my self. Before I met him I was so strong and independent, now I just feel empty without him. I know our relationship has been so dramatic, and I have been an idiot running back to him so many times but each time we break up it gets harder. one minute he was changing his life plans to stay with me, the next he never wants to see me agian, I really can't take it anymore I know I am a fool, but if he wanted to take me back tomorow I would run back with open arms.Why do I still love this guy? How can I forget about him? How can I concentrate on the negative things? How do I get my self-confidenceand strength back? I don't want to be a doormat for the rest of my life!
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers
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Answer 1 :
this guys crazy in whatever way you wanna call him. I would suggest move away somewhere really far without telling him
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Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
leave, stay.. What should I do
leave, stay.. What should I do?
Ok, this is going to be long but more than a question is like talking therapy. I would like to know what you think. (no mean stuff please). Thank you. this is my story, I came to US from my country Brazil when I was 17 (23 now), i started living with my bf (i met back there) everything was ok until a few months after i got here, he used to make his own desitions, he bought an apt. without my aproval etc., in other words he cahnged a lot. one day i was studying in his laptop and i found that he was cheating on me, actually the relationship with this girl started when he was in Brazil with me, i was devastated after that I never trusted him again (this happened 3 yrs ago), i forgave him, he changed for a while and then he started yelling at me, didnt care about me, he had good aptituds like detaills.... but nothing else. We are still together but i am not happy, in the hand I met a guy at work and I felt in love but I am scared, I dont know what to do, should i leave my bf, should I stay, am I really in love with this guy or i am just desperate.what should i do. Sometiemes I just want to cry and take off somewhere. Sorry if it doesnt make sense but if i re-read it I wont post it. thanks for listening.
Marriage & Divorce - 9 Answers
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Answer 1 :
Leave your boyfriend. You should have left him 3 years ago when he was cheating on you. I can bet that he is still cheating on you. Go be happy.
Answer 2 :
I agree with Kari. Dump the cheater.
Answer 3 :
its time to go sorry love ... but you dont have to be with him so go and enjoy your life ..good luck with the new guy ..
Answer 4 :
I think you should leave your current boyfriend, not because of the fact that he cheated on you, but because he is cruel to you. I would suggest that you handle it gently so that you do not make him very angry and he hurts you. I would also suggest that you talk to the other guy and make sure that he has feelings for you. Good Luck
Answer 5 :
I think you should leave him. He's no good for you and doesn't respect you. He's trying to keep you stuck by verbally abusing you. Just go before it gets worse.
Answer 6 :
Leave the b/f, but not for the guy at work. You sound like you really need some alone time, to figure out what you want. It sounds like you never really got over your b/f cheating. Trust sometimes is like a broken vase, if it breaks, it can be put back together. But never really is the same. It's ok to be by yourself, you can date, see what else is out there, and go from there. Love sucks sometimes, but makes you stronger in the end....
Answer 7 :
Dump him.
Answer 8 :
I think you feel guilty because you gave him a chance and now you are thinking about someone else, and if this person hadn't come along, maybe you would still be trying to work it out. But the important thing is you are not happy, and neither is he since he is looking elsewhere and treating you badly. Love should bring out the best in you, and when it doesn't, then the relationship may not be the healthiest one.
Answer 9 :
honey, if you are not happy, you are wasting your time, forget his time, your more important. Its better to separate than to just stay together and rip yourself apart wondering if he gonna do the same again. Yuo can always forgive but never forget. You guys are meant for each other you will reunite when the time is right. Me and now my husband were in an emotional rollercoaster when we wre first together. We loved each other til it hurt but wanted to make each other suffer if that can make sense to you. We broke up. I cut communication and had no contact for two years. then we somehow got reunited and gave it anothe rchance with no expectations. We matured, we grew up and changed for the better separatelyso when we got back together we knew it was not gonna be the 1st time around. After a year we got married. Remember if you let him go, and you two are meant for each other, when the timing is right, he will come back to you somehow
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Ok, this is going to be long but more than a question is like talking therapy. I would like to know what you think. (no mean stuff please). Thank you. this is my story, I came to US from my country Brazil when I was 17 (23 now), i started living with my bf (i met back there) everything was ok until a few months after i got here, he used to make his own desitions, he bought an apt. without my aproval etc., in other words he cahnged a lot. one day i was studying in his laptop and i found that he was cheating on me, actually the relationship with this girl started when he was in Brazil with me, i was devastated after that I never trusted him again (this happened 3 yrs ago), i forgave him, he changed for a while and then he started yelling at me, didnt care about me, he had good aptituds like detaills.... but nothing else. We are still together but i am not happy, in the hand I met a guy at work and I felt in love but I am scared, I dont know what to do, should i leave my bf, should I stay, am I really in love with this guy or i am just desperate.what should i do. Sometiemes I just want to cry and take off somewhere. Sorry if it doesnt make sense but if i re-read it I wont post it. thanks for listening.
Marriage & Divorce - 9 Answers
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Answer 1 :
Leave your boyfriend. You should have left him 3 years ago when he was cheating on you. I can bet that he is still cheating on you. Go be happy.
Answer 2 :
I agree with Kari. Dump the cheater.
Answer 3 :
its time to go sorry love ... but you dont have to be with him so go and enjoy your life ..good luck with the new guy ..
Answer 4 :
I think you should leave your current boyfriend, not because of the fact that he cheated on you, but because he is cruel to you. I would suggest that you handle it gently so that you do not make him very angry and he hurts you. I would also suggest that you talk to the other guy and make sure that he has feelings for you. Good Luck
Answer 5 :
I think you should leave him. He's no good for you and doesn't respect you. He's trying to keep you stuck by verbally abusing you. Just go before it gets worse.
Answer 6 :
Leave the b/f, but not for the guy at work. You sound like you really need some alone time, to figure out what you want. It sounds like you never really got over your b/f cheating. Trust sometimes is like a broken vase, if it breaks, it can be put back together. But never really is the same. It's ok to be by yourself, you can date, see what else is out there, and go from there. Love sucks sometimes, but makes you stronger in the end....
Answer 7 :
Dump him.
Answer 8 :
I think you feel guilty because you gave him a chance and now you are thinking about someone else, and if this person hadn't come along, maybe you would still be trying to work it out. But the important thing is you are not happy, and neither is he since he is looking elsewhere and treating you badly. Love should bring out the best in you, and when it doesn't, then the relationship may not be the healthiest one.
Answer 9 :
honey, if you are not happy, you are wasting your time, forget his time, your more important. Its better to separate than to just stay together and rip yourself apart wondering if he gonna do the same again. Yuo can always forgive but never forget. You guys are meant for each other you will reunite when the time is right. Me and now my husband were in an emotional rollercoaster when we wre first together. We loved each other til it hurt but wanted to make each other suffer if that can make sense to you. We broke up. I cut communication and had no contact for two years. then we somehow got reunited and gave it anothe rchance with no expectations. We matured, we grew up and changed for the better separatelyso when we got back together we knew it was not gonna be the 1st time around. After a year we got married. Remember if you let him go, and you two are meant for each other, when the timing is right, he will come back to you somehow
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Wednesday, July 14, 2010
omg... what to do? broke up with ex.. no job
omg... what to do? broke up with ex.. no job...?
after i broke up with my ex who tried to kill me and never had a job while i was with him due to the fact that he influenced me to quit my job that was me stupid.. i now had to move out his place and paid my own money from my savings for diposit and six month rent which is a fortune for me as i never worked for almost a year.. now i havent got no money left, still looking for a job. and mind you am still at uni so i got to work part time on evenings.. what should i do to get money?,.. my ex was a rich man 15yrs older than me am 25... were can i get a good rich man like him for a while whilst still looking for a job? mind you av learned a lesson.. my ex even smashed my £800 laptop and never repayd me back, i spent over £1500 for my new rented house apart from the hotel i stayd for a week and my new laptop.. plz help, havent got parent in england.. my mama in africa and dad in brazil and not rich to send me money over
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Everything including getting a job
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after i broke up with my ex who tried to kill me and never had a job while i was with him due to the fact that he influenced me to quit my job that was me stupid.. i now had to move out his place and paid my own money from my savings for diposit and six month rent which is a fortune for me as i never worked for almost a year.. now i havent got no money left, still looking for a job. and mind you am still at uni so i got to work part time on evenings.. what should i do to get money?,.. my ex was a rich man 15yrs older than me am 25... were can i get a good rich man like him for a while whilst still looking for a job? mind you av learned a lesson.. my ex even smashed my £800 laptop and never repayd me back, i spent over £1500 for my new rented house apart from the hotel i stayd for a week and my new laptop.. plz help, havent got parent in england.. my mama in africa and dad in brazil and not rich to send me money over
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Everything including getting a job
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Wednesday, July 7, 2010
anybody know some good Indie music, or websites to find some
anybody know some good Indie music, or websites to find some?
I recently got my ipod touch, Blackberry, laptop, wallet, and a bag of clothing stolen while in a trip in Brazil. (never ever leave ur stuff on top of your bed in a cheap Brazilian hotel!!!!!!!!!! keep it in the safe) luckily i had my passport and camara with me. WEELLLLL i dont have any music at all! I dont really know what kinda music to download since everything was in my ipod and i dont remember all the artist. I have a $600 budget for Itunes for i can get some songs. I prefer Indie music, hip hop, electro, electronic, dance, 2-step, harrdcore, House, Folk, Pop, Rap. Please suggest some good artists i can look up or any good songs. THank you guys ALOT!
Other - Entertainment - 1 Answers
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Daytrotter.com is a good site to download good indie bands for free. I'm very sorry about your stolen property. May those bastards burn! Bands I would recommend that you check out... Land Of Talk Built To Spill City And Colour Cloud Cult Death Cab For Cutie The Decemberists The Dodos Elliott Smith Interpol The Maccabees Margot & The Nuclear So & So's Manchester Orchestra Menomena Oh My! Oh No! The Organ Cutt Off Your Hands Yourself And The Air Jenny Ownen Youngs All Get Out Audrey Sessions Bear Hands Beatbeat Whisper Chairlift Chase Pagan Conner A Faulty Chromosome Heartless Bastard Ingrid Michealson Julie Doiron Koufax The Lisps Nico Vega Ohtis one For The Team The Organ The outline Paper Route Pattern Is Movement Ra Ra Riot The Royal Bangs Say Hi Sybris Tegan And Sara Thao With The Get Down Stay Down White Lies :)
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I recently got my ipod touch, Blackberry, laptop, wallet, and a bag of clothing stolen while in a trip in Brazil. (never ever leave ur stuff on top of your bed in a cheap Brazilian hotel!!!!!!!!!! keep it in the safe) luckily i had my passport and camara with me. WEELLLLL i dont have any music at all! I dont really know what kinda music to download since everything was in my ipod and i dont remember all the artist. I have a $600 budget for Itunes for i can get some songs. I prefer Indie music, hip hop, electro, electronic, dance, 2-step, harrdcore, House, Folk, Pop, Rap. Please suggest some good artists i can look up or any good songs. THank you guys ALOT!
Other - Entertainment - 1 Answers
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Daytrotter.com is a good site to download good indie bands for free. I'm very sorry about your stolen property. May those bastards burn! Bands I would recommend that you check out... Land Of Talk Built To Spill City And Colour Cloud Cult Death Cab For Cutie The Decemberists The Dodos Elliott Smith Interpol The Maccabees Margot & The Nuclear So & So's Manchester Orchestra Menomena Oh My! Oh No! The Organ Cutt Off Your Hands Yourself And The Air Jenny Ownen Youngs All Get Out Audrey Sessions Bear Hands Beatbeat Whisper Chairlift Chase Pagan Conner A Faulty Chromosome Heartless Bastard Ingrid Michealson Julie Doiron Koufax The Lisps Nico Vega Ohtis one For The Team The Organ The outline Paper Route Pattern Is Movement Ra Ra Riot The Royal Bangs Say Hi Sybris Tegan And Sara Thao With The Get Down Stay Down White Lies :)
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