leave, stay.. What should I do?
Ok, this is going to be long but more than a question is like talking therapy. I would like to know what you think. (no mean stuff please). Thank you. this is my story, I came to US from my country Brazil when I was 17 (23 now), i started living with my bf (i met back there) everything was ok until a few months after i got here, he used to make his own desitions, he bought an apt. without my aproval etc., in other words he cahnged a lot. one day i was studying in his laptop and i found that he was cheating on me, actually the relationship with this girl started when he was in Brazil with me, i was devastated after that I never trusted him again (this happened 3 yrs ago), i forgave him, he changed for a while and then he started yelling at me, didnt care about me, he had good aptituds like detaills.... but nothing else. We are still together but i am not happy, in the hand I met a guy at work and I felt in love but I am scared, I dont know what to do, should i leave my bf, should I stay, am I really in love with this guy or i am just desperate.what should i do. Sometiemes I just want to cry and take off somewhere. Sorry if it doesnt make sense but if i re-read it I wont post it. thanks for listening.
Marriage & Divorce - 9 Answers
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Answer 1 :
Leave your boyfriend. You should have left him 3 years ago when he was cheating on you. I can bet that he is still cheating on you. Go be happy.
Answer 2 :
I agree with Kari. Dump the cheater.
Answer 3 :
its time to go sorry love ... but you dont have to be with him so go and enjoy your life ..good luck with the new guy ..
Answer 4 :
I think you should leave your current boyfriend, not because of the fact that he cheated on you, but because he is cruel to you. I would suggest that you handle it gently so that you do not make him very angry and he hurts you. I would also suggest that you talk to the other guy and make sure that he has feelings for you. Good Luck
Answer 5 :
I think you should leave him. He's no good for you and doesn't respect you. He's trying to keep you stuck by verbally abusing you. Just go before it gets worse.
Answer 6 :
Leave the b/f, but not for the guy at work. You sound like you really need some alone time, to figure out what you want. It sounds like you never really got over your b/f cheating. Trust sometimes is like a broken vase, if it breaks, it can be put back together. But never really is the same. It's ok to be by yourself, you can date, see what else is out there, and go from there. Love sucks sometimes, but makes you stronger in the end....
Answer 7 :
Dump him.
Answer 8 :
I think you feel guilty because you gave him a chance and now you are thinking about someone else, and if this person hadn't come along, maybe you would still be trying to work it out. But the important thing is you are not happy, and neither is he since he is looking elsewhere and treating you badly. Love should bring out the best in you, and when it doesn't, then the relationship may not be the healthiest one.
Answer 9 :
honey, if you are not happy, you are wasting your time, forget his time, your more important. Its better to separate than to just stay together and rip yourself apart wondering if he gonna do the same again. Yuo can always forgive but never forget. You guys are meant for each other you will reunite when the time is right. Me and now my husband were in an emotional rollercoaster when we wre first together. We loved each other til it hurt but wanted to make each other suffer if that can make sense to you. We broke up. I cut communication and had no contact for two years. then we somehow got reunited and gave it anothe rchance with no expectations. We matured, we grew up and changed for the better separatelyso when we got back together we knew it was not gonna be the 1st time around. After a year we got married. Remember if you let him go, and you two are meant for each other, when the timing is right, he will come back to you somehow
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