Why do I love a guy who hurts me so much?
Why do I love a guy who hurts me so much? Throughout our relationship he has broken up with me 4 times. The first tine because he read my messages and saw that a guy (who was just a friend) was texting me. But he didn't tell me thats why , he just broke all contact with me and gave no explanation. The Second time was because I was jelous that a really pretty girl that he met in a club one night was texting him all the time ( he said it was just because they come from the same city in brazil) But any way he got mad that i was jelous and broke up with me. He came back again , and I like an Idiot took him back. Then one night when i was dunk I told him I was bisexual. The next day he said that was too crazy for him and he broke up with me. At this stage I was compeletely heartbroken and this guy, who is an aquaintence of my boyfriend kept asking me out and stuff. I didn't want to sit around and wait for mt boyfriend to come back to me again so I went out with him. When my ex this out he went crazy and smashed my laptop. He said I was a slut and bever wanted to see me again. Then after a long time he came back telling me how much he loved me and needed me, and that he would change his plans to go back to brazil to stay with me in ireland. And of course, me being so weak ran straight back to him. everything was going great for a while, until one night we were out and kinda drnk, he asked me if i slept with that guy, I said yeah and he went crazy calling me a slut and said he never wanted to see me again.He deleted me on facebook and wouldnt answer any of my calls. We eventualy spoke and he said he could never forget what I did to him and that eventhough he loves me we can never be together. He has made me feel so guilty for what I did, and he has made me lose all confidence in my self. Before I met him I was so strong and independent, now I just feel empty without him. I know our relationship has been so dramatic, and I have been an idiot running back to him so many times but each time we break up it gets harder. one minute he was changing his life plans to stay with me, the next he never wants to see me agian, I really can't take it anymore I know I am a fool, but if he wanted to take me back tomorow I would run back with open arms.Why do I still love this guy? How can I forget about him? How can I concentrate on the negative things? How do I get my self-confidenceand strength back? I don't want to be a doormat for the rest of my life!
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Answer 1 :
you are craving the good times in your relationship and the loving times, if he tries to come back im sure you can at least have the control to sit back and think, think about all the things hes done to you and that no matter how nice the good times are and how amazing the things hes saying are that they are all a lie and it will just end in heart brake... he doesn't really love you because love is through the good times and the bad and he just wants to be there for the good not the bad. just make sure to step back and think about this he doesn't love you like he says and no one deserves to be treated like this... just stay out of relationships for a while and you will slowly get your self confidence back. you just need to show yourself that you can live without a man in your life
Answer 2 :
It's ok ...to feel that bonding towards someone..especially, someone who you feel loves you. Life itself can become more complicated if you let it. You are special for one. You need to value yourself. Give someone else a chance to be your one and only. You are absolutely wasting precious time on someone who doesn't deserve your love. Take time to analysis what you've been through. True love should have music, love, passion, understanding, giving, caring and so many others to mention. It's just all wrapped in one. Please stop wasting time...let someone else love you as you should be loved.
Answer 3 :
Aww you sound like a really nice person do us all a favour dump him.. He's already broken your heart 4 times what makes make you think he wont do it again..,, you deserve guy that are way nicer then you.. And ill gurantee you will find it best of luck
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